You probably landed on this blog post because you want to learn how to give the best handjob. Do you want to satisfy your man without spreading your legs or sucking him dry? If your answer is a resounding yes, then you should definitely scroll down to read the rest!
A handjob should be more than just stroking the penis until he comes. Thereâs an art associated with it, and itâs sort of like foreplay- yes, you can go through the motions, but thereâs so much more you can offer (more tips and techniques later!) For now, letâs focus on defining a handjob, the difference between a handjob and a blowjob, and the things you can do while giving one.
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What is a Handjob?
So letâs assume youâre a total beginner at sex and foreplay. You donât have that much experience other than straight-up penetration, fingering, or the usual hand-over-the-breast motions. The word âhandjobâ is entirely new to you, and you may have thought that it was a thing you do at work (you know, because of the âjobâ association).
So, to set the record straight and so youâll know how to properly throw the word around (not in casual conversations), a handjob is a sexually stimulating technique that involves you or your partnerâs hand and a cock. Itâs not male masturbation, mainly because another person is doing the stroking, but itâs similar in terms of process and execution. Handjobs can be classified into the act of masturbation, which in itself carries no risk of acquiring STDs.
You can do a handjob as part of foreplay (before penetration) or as the main event, where your man will spill his juice after stroking him through ejaculation and orgasm. Itâs versatile enough that it can be used at any point during sex, as well as the places that you can give it. Fancy going for a quick handjob in the car, or maybe even in the dressing room of a mall? Feel free to experiment and be adventurous if you want, but donât get caught!
Like with any sexual penetration, stroking, or pleasuring, thereâs an important element involved- keeping it frictionless and as wet and slippery as possible. A handjob definitely requires some sort of lubricant- it can be your spit, scented lotion, or a straight-up lube product. It can be soap, baby oil, or whatever you have on hand as long as it doesnât sting or cause skin rashes.
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Is Handjob Different From Blowjob?
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Asking this question in real life may elicit giggles and guffaws, but hey, you have to learn sometime, right?
Hereâs the thing- a handjob is different from a blowjob. In the simplest explanation, a handjob is stroking a cock using your hands (hence the name), while a blowjob is pleasuring a guyâs manhood using your mouth and tongue. The word âblowâ gets thrown in there because, from a guyâs perspective, the partner is âblowingâ or sucking his dick.
In my opinion, a blowjob is harder to do but itâs more pleasurable in your partnerâs eyes. A handjob, on the other hand, can be done with minimal effort, and you can usually do other things while youâre at it. Plus, itâs a great alternative when youâre too tired to have sex.
All in all, giving a great handjob should be part of everyoneâs sexual repertoire. If you want to make your partner happy, you should be well-versed in this forgotten art because it can keep them cumming back for more, pun intended.
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The Best Handjob Positions
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There are several positions you can assume when youâre giving a handjob. Most of them require you to sit down or kneel, and thereâs quite a bit of leeway involved, e.g., you can put a pillow on the floor so your knees wonât hurt, or sit in a position that feels okay to you. In some cases, you can lie down on the bed and stroke until kingdom come if thatâs what you and your partner want to experience.
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Kneel While He Stands
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This handjob position is pretty straightforward- the partner assumes a kneeling position in front of the guy, and the guy stands up straight. Typically, you and your partner will be making eye contact throughout as you stroke or receive stimulation.
As you might expect, itâs popular for those who want to be on the submissive or dominating end of it (depending on what youâre going for). You look up and feel like youâre doing a service, while your partner guides you on how you can proceed. If heâs the take-charge kind of guy then you can bet that he will be delighted and enjoy the experience.
With one hand free, you can do what you want. If youâre feeling horny yourself, you can just reach down and rub your clitoris, or insert a finger or two to simulate penetration. Your partner can spice things up by grabbing your hair, cupping your face, or talking dirty.
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Sitting as He Lies Down on the Bed
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Often called âThe Standardâ of handjob positions, this will have you both on the bed and albeit in different positions. Your man will be lying down on his back or sitting back comfortably, while you will be in âwork modeâ, kneeling and arched over his cock. Alternatively, you can just lie or sit in between your partnerâs legs as you stroke.
Much like the âkneel while he standsâ position, your partner wonât be able to do much except touching your hair or your breasts. Youâll be doing most of the work, and sometimes you wonât be able to pleasure yourself because youâll be having the other hand down on the mattress for balancing purposes.
To make things more exciting, you can let him see your full sexiness and curves by bending down and slightly pushing your butt into the air. Refrain from looking down- alternate your eyes between the cock youâre stroking and your partnerâs expressions. Remember, itâs a labor of love and not a chore.
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Kneel While He Sits
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Donât have a bed or something to lie on? Itâs no excuse to not do something naughty. A chair and a not-too-hard floor should suffice and be enough to get your partner to cum. Youâll be kneeling or sitting down between your partnerâs spread legs as he sits.
Your man gets to have an amazing view of your face and your tits, while you have a chance to play the submissive role. Both parties greatly benefit from this position- he feels more powerful as he sits on his âthroneâ, while you can concentrate on the act itself. Itâs also a nice point of view on your behalf since youâd be able to get a closer look at your partnerâs cock and see what youâre actually doing.
Eye contact is imperative if you want your partner to really feel it. Communicate and talk dirty if it excites you both.
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Bedside Service
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The âBedside Serviceâ is aptly named because itâs the default position for a âHappy Endingâ. These handjob services are offered in shady spas and where sexual favors are allowed. Naturally, the âmasseuseâ wonât be kneeling or sitting down in front, but rather to the side of the bed and sitting on a chair.
Itâs an easy-access position because your man can do a lot more compared to the kneeling-in-front or the standing handjob. He can use both hands to fondle your breasts or even do a little fingering in the process. The eye-to-eye distance is closer, too. That said, itâs a good starting point for couples who want to give handjobs a try and want things to be normal and proper.
Youâll have several options of your own while pleasuring your man, but itâs mostly a straightforward stroke-until-he-comes deal. Also, you can do the same to your erogenous zones and do a mutual orgasm, which will feel like traditional sex.
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You Lying While He Stands
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This is sort of a newcomer in the world of handjobs, but itâs gaining popularity due to being prominent in porn videos. Your man gets an amazing point of view as he stares you down from above while you âmilkâ him to ejaculate.
You start by lying down comfortably on the bed, while he spreads his knees across your body, his cock pointing at your tits or face. Using either hand, you do the stroking motion and let him finish on your breasts or face.
Knowing this, you should prepare beforehand and have accepted that there will be a gooey mess. If your partner wants to try this but you donât want to deal with having to wash off the cum, itâs still your final decision. You can gently tell your man that you want something neater, like the Bedside Service or the Standard.
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Experimenting On Your Own
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Handjobs donât have to conform to standards. If both of you are feeling adventurous, then you can experiment or try different positions until you come to an agreement.
Communication is the key to success, and this applies to when youâre giving a handjob. Aside from the position, youâll want to check in with your partner now and then- does he give grunts of satisfaction, or does he seem bored?
Time, experience, and handjob sessions will tell if your partner wants to continue. You might even find a favorite handjob position and technique that really teases your man and makes him harder and cum more than usual. Donât be afraid to suggest to your partner that youâll be giving him a handjob- he might have been fantasizing about it but is too shy to ask for it.
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5 Handjob Techniques You Should Try
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In your search for how to give a handjob, youâll inevitably come across techniques on how to best use your hands to pleasure your partner.
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Usual Up and Down
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The most basic of handjob stroking techniques. Here, all you need to do is know how to properly grip your partnerâs cock (not too hard nor too soft) and follow an up-and-down movement. You can alternate the speed and the length of your stroke- try focusing on the base, then switch it up and include the head on the next.
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Twist and Stroke
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Do this technique with plenty of lube so your man wonât feel uncomfortable or pain with the friction youâre about to generate. As an alternative, you can use your saliva and make a show of it to turn him on. Imagine opening a jar of pickles or mayonnaise, but instead of just one area, youâre moving up and down simultaneously.
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Stroke and Suck
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If you really want to give your partner a good time then youâll have to use more than your hand for this technique. As you do the usual up and down or twist and stroke, youâll be using your lips or tongue to lick or suck his balls and base. Youâll have to be mindful that youâre doing two things to make it work.
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Down and Down
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The down and down requires two hands working in conjunction with each other. Start by stroking at the top of his cock going down, then instead of going back up you release the hold. Then do the same with your other hand, stroking and letting go at the base. You can switch the rhythm by doing one hand at a time, or you can smother your partnerâs manhood with alternating downward strokes.
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A Bit of Anal Work
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Adventurous couples can give this a try, but make sure that your man cleans up beforehand. You can insert a lubed finger to massage your partnerâs anal opening, or maybe work your tongue in there a bit, depending on what youâre more comfortable doing.
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Sex Toys You Can Bring to a Handjob
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Sex toys can add spice to the bedroom, regardless of activity. If you want to make the most of your handjob session and make it an event that your partner wonât forget soon, try these five sex toys.
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Vibrator
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Those who want a mutual orgasm or finish should invest in a good vibrator. You can get stimulated as you do the same for your partner. Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes- you can choose the one you want, and if thereâs a remote, you can hand over the controls to your partner!
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Anal Plug
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This works the same as having a vibrator in place. An anal plug offers an extra sensory experience for those who are extra sensitive in that particular region. You can choose the material or design you want, then put it in when youâre ready to give a handjob.
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Lube
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Lube is important because handjobs produce a lot of friction. The good thing about lube is that itâs practically made for handjobs- it makes your strokes slippery, which makes him feel like heâs penetrating a wet vagina or getting a blowjob. Plus, itâs safe to use and there are products that offer extra features, such as making the cock extra sensitive or adding scents and flavors into the mix.
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Costumes
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Fancy wearing a maid costume as you pleasure your manâs cock? Costumes make you feel bolder and add to the visual experience. If you or your partner has a fantasy you both would like to try, then definitely go for it. Along the way, you can add accessories, such as toy cuffs, a sexy mask, or maybe even some ropes (if youâre into bonding and whatnot).
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Another Person
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Step it up even further by inviting someone (with consent from that person and your partner, of course) to do some bedroom play. Itâs a âtoyâ thatâs reserved for the most open-minded of couples. You donât have to do it, but itâs a mind-blowing experience if you do.
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Handjob FAQs
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How to give a handjob?
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A handjob is the act of stroking your partnerâs cock using your hands until he comes. Depending on your mood or preference, you can provide the basic âstroke until ejaculationâ technique, or if you have the time, the âstroke and twistâ technique.
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What should you do after a handjob?
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If your man hasnât cummed yet, you can make love until both of you reach orgasm. However, most couples commit to a handjob until the finish, or when he shoots a load.
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What if thereâs no lube available?
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You can use alternative liquids that can make your partnerâs manhood wet and slippery. Some options include lotions, baby oil, or soap, but you should remember to wash it off thoroughly afterward!
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Is handjob better than blowjob?
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Not really. It depends on the couple and what they like. If you like giving head, then go for it. Otherwise, a good olâ handjob should do the trick.
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Conclusion - How to Give a Handjob Your Man Will Never Forget
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By now you should be familiar with techniques and ways on how to give an incredible handjob. Itâs an essential skill that you should learn if you want to add to your sexual repertoire. Guys respect girls who can give a good handjob- they might like you more and give you the best pounding youâve ever had as a reward. Try the handjob methods listed above so you can be a sex goddess in the bedroom!
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