Let's face it, squirting is still kind of a mystery to most people. Even though it's been written about, talked about, and even studied for years, there's still a lot of confusion surrounding this topic.
Whenever we hear the word “squirting”, some common questions pop up: What is squirting? Is it urine? Is it vaginal discharge? Is it an orgasm? Can all women do it? And perhaps most importantly, how can I make it happen for me?
If you're looking for answers to any (or all) of these questions, then you've come to the right place. In this guide, we'll bust some of the myths surrounding female ejaculation and teach you everything you need to know in order to experience it yourself. Trust us, once you learn how to squirt, your sex life will never be the same!
What is Squirting?
The first question we always get is "what is squirting?" According to Flo Health, squirting is the release of fluid from the Skene's glands during sexual stimulation or arousal. These glands are located near the bladder and surround the urethra (the canal that urine passes through). This fluid is often clear or milky-white in appearance and has very little odor.
Contrary to popular belief, squirting is not urine. In fact, researchers believe that the Skene's glands fill up with fluid during sexual arousal and then release it when stimuli (such as fingers, a penis, or clitoral stimulation) trigger their release. This fluid then mixes with fluids from the bladder and urethra before being expelled from the body.
This is so useful as most of us women commonly think that squirting is messy, or worse, something to be ashamed about. Yet, here comes science dispelling such stigma!
How Do I Squirt?
Ever been curious about how to make yourself squirt? You’re not alone. In fact, a recent study by Mind Body Green found that only 10-54% of women can experience squirting. Which is not a lot! So rest assured that most of us are on this journey together!
Now that we know what squirting is, let's talk about how you can make it happen for you. Unfortunately, there's no one-size-fits-all answer here. However, there are some general tips from Medium that may help you on your journey to female ejaculation:
- Start by getting yourself aroused. This may mean watching some porn or reading erotica that gets you going. Experiment with different types of stimulation until you find something that really turns you on. A personal sidenote: I really appreciate this tip because it dispels the stigma that porn should be avoided at all costs. As long as we are responsible with consuming porn then it shouldn’t be an issues to incorporate in your sex life!
- Once you're aroused, begin stimulating your G-spotusing your fingers or a sex toy designed for G-spot stimulation. The G-spot is typically located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall (towards your belly button). It feels like a small spongy area when stimulated.
- Continue stimulating your G-spot until you feel like you need to pee. This sensation is normal and means that you're doing everything right! Don't worry - you won't actually pee if you keep going.
- When you're close to orgasm, try bearing down or pushing out with your pelvic muscles as if you're trying to expel something from your vagina. This action combined with G-spot stimulation will often result in squirting!
- Relax and let yourself go with the flow! Once you start squirting, don't be surprised if things get pretty messy. After all, most people expel between 0.5 and 2 cups of fluid when they squirt!
How to Make Your Partner Squirt?
Calling all loving partners! For many us, the holy grail of sex is making their partner squirt. Unfortunately, it's not as easy as it sounds. In fact, for many women, it's impossible. But that doesn't mean you should give up! With a little bit of know-how and some practice, you can make your partner squirt in no time. With a little bit of help from Mind Body Green, Here's how:
- The first step is to find the G-Spot. The G-Spot is a sensitive area located inside the vagina, about two to three inches up from the opening. To locate it, insert your fingers into your partner's vagina and feel around for a small raised area. Once you've found it, you can begin stimulating it with your fingers. It's important to use a gentle touch at first; too much pressure can be uncomfortable. Experiment with different strokes and speeds until you find what feels good.
- Use lube! Lube is essential for making your partner squirt. The G-Spot is located in an area that isn't naturally lubricated, so lube will help reduce friction and make the experience more pleasurable for both of you. Applylube to your fingers and/or use a vibrator or dildo that's already coated in lube. This will help ensure smooth, comfortable sensations for your partner.
- Build Up to It! Stimulating the G-Spot can be intense, so it's important to build up to it gradually. teased her with kisses, nibbles, licking and tickling all over her body before moving between her legs. Spend plenty of time focusing on the clitoris; most women need direct clitoral stimulationto reach orgasm. Once she's aroused, you can begin stimulating the G-Spot using your fingers or a sex toy designed for G-Spot stimulation.
- Do It Together! Masturbation is a great way to learn how to make your partner squirt. Have her lie down on her back with pillows propped under her hips and watch her pleasure herself using her fingers or a sex toy. As she gets closer to orgasm, she can increase the speed and pressure until she squirts. Alternatively, you can use your own hand or sex toy to stimulate her while she watches; some women find this more pleasurable than being watched themselves.
Another personal sidenote: I wish that my partner and I knew about these things before so that we wouldn’t have to go through so much trial and error in figuring out how to make me squirt! On the brightside, at least I get to share this article with you so that you won’t have to go through it the hard way!
Now that we've answered some of the most common questions surrounding female ejaculation, it's time for YOU to give it a try!
Remember - there's no one right way to do things when it comes to sex; experiment until you find what works best for YOU! And most importantly - have fun!